Tuesday, January 6, 2009

His Work ~ Chapter 2

"...he has worked hard and long for so little reward that he no longer sees a future for himself-at least not one worth living."
Mr B works so hard to be the best and it really gets to him when he is not recognized and/or appreciated by his peers of superiors. I don't know how to help him in this. When he was 19, he rose so quickly, he was promoted faster and to a higher position for his age than anyone in the companies history and then he hit the ceiling. No where to go. It was a blow to his self esteem...its now happening with his new job...all I can do is pray for new opportunities to arise and that he goes where God wants him to be.

"...pray for his eyes to be opened to see what God wants him to do and where God is leading."

I recognize that God knows Mr B's gifts and where he should be. God knows what would make him happy and when Mr B surrenders his work to God, He will put him in a place that is fulfilling. That is what I want for my sweet husband. He has such great talent. I want him to use it, be successful, and glorify God.

"If your husband is a hard worker, make sure he has times of rest and enjoyment-to do things that entertain him and give him a reprieve from the weight of a lifetime of supporting a family. Men need periods of refreshing. If they don't have them, they are prone to burnout and temptation of all kinds."
I believe this is part of what contributed to the affairs to begin with. He was working long days, sometimes up to 16 hours and would go to the bar just about every night to let off steam. This led to other things...I hate looking back to that time. It was so unhealthy all the way around. I don't even know that man. That's not my Mr B today and I am so thankful for that. I do need to work on giving him "down time". This is just as much a prayer for him as it is for me.

Prayer Portion

"May his labor bring not only favor, success, and prosperity, but great fulfillment as well. If the work he is doing is not in line with Your perfect will for his life, reveal it to him to see that he doesn't have to work himself to death for man's approval, or grasp for gain beyond what is a gift from You. Give him the ability to enjoy his success without striving for more. Help him to excel, but free him from the pressure to do so...bring You into every aspect of it...Open up doors of opportunity for him that no man can close...Show me what I can do to encourage him. I pray that his work will be established, secure, successful, satisfying, and financially rewarding."

Let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us, and establish the work of our hands for us; yes, establish the work of our hands. ~ Psalms 90:17

Last night, I read the second chapter and as soon as Mr B got off of work, he called me. He had a hard day at work and it seems like the problems he had at his last job (where he worked and had the affairs) are starting to arise here. He puts in a lot of work, is number 1 in the company for the what he does and yet, there is no appreciation. He left his last job for his new job and left behind, at my prompting, 20% of his income. October 2008, he was there a year. He has had no review (which he was supposed to get at 6 months and 1 year) and no raise. It's just been tough on him and our finances and I think he feels like he isn't providing. Well, as we talked, I felt the Holy Spirit prompt me. In chapter 1 we are supposed to let the Holy Spirit speak through us and already here He was! I told Mr B I wanted to read out of my book when he got home. We sat on the couch and I read him all of Chapter 2. I told him that maybe he isn't where he is supposed to be or maybe God is just waiting for him to include Him in this aspect of his life. I think it really got through to him. He went upstairs and got his bible and we spent time together there reading. We then went to the kitchen, I had hot chocolate, he had strawberry milk (I know, what are we 3? :) ) and we just talked. It carried upstairs to our room and we talked until we fell asleep. He also just told me how in love with me he is. I really needed to hear it. It was an amazing night.


Nutty mom-- said...

How awesome to see how this book is changing you lives already. That long talk ya'll had must have been so awesome! I'm really happy for you

Ang said...

Stay strong & keep it up!!